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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's her THIRD child people.  She's not going into some unknown territory, she's not on bed rest with some terribly high risk pregnancy, she's a grown woman who made a grown up decision to have a 3rd child knowing full well her husband might not be around.

It's okay to be disappointed that you didn't get you way, but it's time to buck up and stop expecting Mommy to drop her life altogether to tend to a decision that you and your husband made.

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To drop her life? What life? Nobody who has a life has time to do worthless library volunteering.[/quote]

So what the mom does in her life is worthless?  Volunteering is a worthless action and only those that have no life engage in it and they should be able to run to the beck and call of a grown adult daughter who is not in a life or death state because the mom's life is worth less than the wants of a spoiled adult child.

Got it.   :wink:

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it's not that the mom's life is worth less (??), it's that volunteering has little value. if it had value, it would be paid. OP's mom's life, like that of many retirees, is EMPTY EMPTY EMPTY. they travel, socialize and volunteer - ie they are of no use to anyone. helping family is an opportunity for those people to have some meaning in their lives.. this is why so many grandparents DO want to help.[/quote]

(slow whistle) Nice to see how you view the parent volunteers who help out in your child's classroom.

At the end of the day, it does not matter that the activity is without value to you - it has value to OP's mom.

Way I see, I am thrilled that my parents are busy volunterring and such.  Because they have full lives independent of me and my family.  There are a lot of threads on here about how the elderly parents are always around, not giving space, etc.  I do not have that problem and I am glad because of it.

Add to that, my mother was a ES teacher for 40 years.  I would be very relectant to ask her to help me with childcare in a non-emergency situation.  [/quote].

I am not denying that it has value for OPs mom, just that it is in fact no value to society. When society values something it pays for it. I find it funny when people here live on ramen noodles, no cable, used clthes etc, their whole lives in order to be able to retire only to then start pursuing pointless pretend-work on order to feel valuable.

I don't believe that grandparents should be baby sitting regularly but this is pretty close to emergency situation. Certainly it's not something that happens every day. I am a working mom as my mom was before me and I absolutely do not think think that all parents' needs should be subservient to children. But people here leave important business meetings  in order to attent some worthless kindergarten play (or stop working altogether) and then, 20 years later, can't be there for the birth of a grandchild because they can't skip their reading group meeting. Ridiculous.[/quote]

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