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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, every culture has it's own parenting style. No style is perfect (surprise!), but there is a lot about Indian families that is worth admiring. Just like there is a lot about American parenting that is worth emulating.

I am a first generation Indian American, and a mom of a two year old. Unlike my kin in India, I enforce a bed time for my child, encourage her to eat on her own and to help out with cleaning (she can operate a small hand vacuum, which comes in handy!).
But I am also particular about never letting her raise her voice at me or her dad, for any reason. I will continue to sacrifice my own comfort so that we can give her the best. And I'll also teach her that when we have extra guests in the house, she needs to give up her bed and sleep in the living room (which is what my husband and I do).

The value for family and respect for elders is probably the most amazing thing about Indian culture, along with high value on education and achievement. Many Indian children look after their parents when they are older - just like their parents looked after their every need when they were younger. Many also have their older parents live with them, even if this means giving up personal comfort. Indians have strong support networks, but the downside is that this can get oppressive and can hinder creativity and independence.

The value for independence in American parenting styles is truly admirable. Children sleeping on their own - feeding themselves and knowing how to do everything from cooking to tiling is noteworthy. The downside is that sometimes Americans can be quite self-absorbed and reluctant to help others (especially when it is not convenient). Compared to Indians, Americans are also seen as less social and very tied to rules.

I don't have this whole parenting thing figured out, but I try! It's easy to point to flaws in another culture and jump to the conclusions that you have drawn. But the truth is that many Indian parents look at American parenting styles and see flaws as well. Isn't is more productive to see the admirable qualities instead and to treat them as opportunities to learn?

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PP, this really resonated with me.  Any chance you live in Arlington or Falls Church and want to do a meet up sometime?[/quote]

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