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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]explain the situation to her and see what she says and get back to us
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I am the one who said tell her so she can assess her three options and I think you should also let her know that you have a potentially willing partner for a discreet, sex only relationship if that's what she chooses. Not as a threat, but so she knows that you're not just idly waving that around to get a rise out of her. It is a SERIOUS possibility. Don't name names, don't be ugly about it, just let her know that that is a distinct opportunity and you will take it if she decides she's okay with an open marriage. Chances are, she won't be, because most American women in monogamous relationships are not, so that means the other two are your more likely paths (more sex with her or divorce). But I would absolutely let her know that the open marriage thing is fully on the table at this point with a willing partner so she knows you aren't just bluffing. That would piss me off but it would also give me a kick in the ass that my marriage was heading down a very serious path and I needed to take some kind of action for myself. [/quote]

OP here.  Thanks for the advice.  I have a babysitter coming Saturday, going to a nice restaurant, good for quiet conversation.  I think this is a better setting to have this kind of talk over wine.  [/quote]

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