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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love the way some posters are saying they "won't allow" certain schools.  You know how I can tell you don't have college kids?

We have one who has graduated, three in college now, one in high school.  My four oldest chose very different schools.  Because we are the ones paying, of course we had some say in where they decided to go.  But the only thing we said was that we would pay the equivalent of in-state tuition.  Anything extra would have to be scholarships or other aid.  Other that that, we let them make the decision.

These are ADULTS.  You need to put aside your own prejudices (Really?  No schools anywhere in the South?  How stupid do you have to be to come up with something like that) and your own college experiences (The poster who hates Greek life was so obviously shut out of every good sorority) and let your adult children make their own decisions.

No wonder so many of you have kids on medication and in therapy.[/quote]

I have three adult children all done with college and beyond.

We made it clear to them when they were in high school that we had the right to veto any school that we thought was not suitable for them. So with our help a short list of schools was drawn up in which they were heavily involved. They were fine with it.

Why did we do this? Easy, we were paying for their college and as long as it was on our dime we had a say - not that we would decide the school they would go to but we would decide which school they would NOT go to.

When it came to grad school, law school, med school, they made the decision partly because they were funding most of the cost and also because they were really mature enough to make a decision. You may think that 18 year olds can make informed decisions and some can - but many cannot and it is the role of the parents to guide them and if we are paying for it to have a decisive say on what is not acceptable.

[b]BTW, none of my kids are or have been on medication or therapy[/b].[/quote]

What on earth does this have to do with the topic at hand? :?: [/quote]

PP's pretty sure that kids with LDs just need a swift kick in the ass from their parents to get better.  :roll:  Letting kids choose their college is just a symptom of lax parenting that leads to therapy and medication.   :roll: [/quote]

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