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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's whining. Other people are not obligated to fulfill your physical and emotional needs.

Turn it around. You are expecting that person to have sex with you, even when they don't feel it and don't enjoy and don't want to. This is a huge imposition and feels emotionally gross. It's an emotional and physical need for that person to have sex less often than you want it. You are demanding that they abandon their physical and emotional needs to fulfill yours. You are bitching about it when they don't.  That's super-whiney.

A mismatch couple either has to come to a compromise or divorce.  You clearly think your needs trump your partner's needs, so divorce was the only option.

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[b]If my emotional needs don't matter to my partner, what's the point in trying to continue a relationship? If someone didn't care about my need to be treated with respect, my response would be the same. 
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Low drive partners aren't upfront about their needs, in my experience. I always make it clear early on how important a healthy sex life and intimacy is to me. I feel lied to if they unilaterally decide it just isn't important anymore. [/quote]

[b]You don't deserve to have your "emotional needs" respected because you don't have respect for your partner. Being required to have sex when you don't want to because the other partner is having an emotional meltdown about it and is throwing a temper tantrum isn't respectful of your low drive partner's needs. [/b]

If you can't come to compromise, then you are better off divorced and so is your partner.

As for me, I've been married 23 years in a marriage that ended up with very mismatched sex drives after the kids got here. We compromised and found a way to keep it together, with everyone putting in an effort to make it work. [/quote]

But it's okay for high drive partner to have their emotional needs neglected?

It's pretty simple to see on this thread who are high drive and who are low drive based on the responses. [/quote]

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