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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe the friend has a medical condition that doesn't allow her to be late to play dates? And what "balanced snack" is right beside the door of a grocery store that isn't candy, chips, donuts, etc.?[/quote]

You mean like fruit?  Yep, way in the back.[/quote]

If you were buying fruit, you would have said. You intentionally said several times, "snack." You said that your child needed constant access to a balanced "snack," not fruit.  If you needed a piece of fruit, why wouldn't you have asked the mom if she could throw an apple, pear, banana, mango, in her bag? Why would you internationally take up the mom's time to buy a kiwi?

And where were you going to wash said "fruit." In the grocery store's nasty bathroom. If so, that's longer than running in and out.

I would have ditched you, too. [/quote]

Ha! If a mom I barely knew called me and said "oh by the way, could you please bring some fruit for my child?" to a playdate, I think I might just have to come to DCUM to vent about what an entitled and clueless mom she is. Halfway joking. But no, I'd never ask another mom to bring my kid a snack, unless it was one of my very closest friends. [/quote]

Really?  I totally would if I was in a bind and I'd be more than happy to do the same if someone asked. Most moms I know are carrying extra snacks all the time anyway. I guess it would be a good thing to ask because if the person acted anything but completely gracious and fully understanding in response, I would know we would never end up being friends. I couldn't enjoy spending time with someone who has her shit so together in every way that she couldn't relate to my running out of snacks, or worse, someone who would begrudge a child a piece of fruit. [/quote]

You're twisting the situation. If you and I were at the playground with our kids and you saw some fruit in my bag, and you asked me for it, I'd say yes. I'd probably have already offered it to you. That would be the case regardless how well I know you. Nobody's begrudging anybody a piece of fruit here. But if we barely know each other (like OP and this woman), and you called me to request I bring your child a snack, I'd do it, but I'd think you were weird.

Also, no, I can't really relate to your running out of snacks...not because I am always 100% prepared but because I don't usually make special arrangements just because I forgot my kid's snack. If he truly will be hungry, I'll get some pretzels or cheeze-itz from a vending machine or ask you for some of yours. But I wouldn't call you from my car and ask you to go out of your way to dig through your fridge for just the right snack for my son (remember, OP's kid has to have a specific snack). I'd not bat an eye for a friend or family member. So while I am not the type of mom who [b]always [/b]has my shit together, a person's snack-preparedness situation is not on my list of things to look for in a friend. [/quote]

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