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[quote=Anonymous]Wow, so many harsh comments to the OP.  I completely empathize with OPs situation, I would feel that my family wasn't complete without at least 2 kids.

OP, here is another take on it from this man's perspective (and I am 37 which seems to me to be old to have another newborn with my youngest now 3).  My suspicion is that your DH has reservations to having another kid because he doesn't want to go back to the newborn stage at his age.  What if you offered to take on the vast majority (or all) of the child care, the midnight feeds, the hectic stuff that comes in the first year?  What if you said upfront that you would be fine with him taking a couple vacations alone or a couple golf trips with his friends.  Perhaps he is afraid of going back to the general sexlessness that happens when babies come around.  As you said, it's not money or home that is his concern, so it's probably some type of lifestyle issue.

If my DW came to my now and wanted a 3rd, I would be very reluctant because I don't want to go back to the newborn exhaustion, sexless, vacationless years at my age.  Her willingness to absorb the brunt of the first year or so would have me much more interested in coming along.[/quote]

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