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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]18 is too young for college.   Kids should work or travel or join the army or something first.  Grow up some.[/quote]

My husband is retired military.  One of his biggest regrets is not having the opportunity to go directly into college.  Military enlisted life is very hard.  It is not easy to work and be deployed and get their degree.  It is not a typical job.  It also is not easy to join always as one makes it sound.  They are doing troup reductions.  Traveling costs money. My parents would not have allowed either.  They were not ok with an 18 year old traveling alone.  Fine if those are your values but ours are to help or pay all, if possibly. [/quote]

My comment is based on seeing many immature 17 to 18 year olds greatly hurt their futures because they were not mature enough to do well in college at such a young age.  Or similarly, see students in grad school who were older do very well while those directly from undergrad not do as well.  It depends on the child, but I'd much rather an unready child have a gap year and hopefully grow up then go somewhere and get bad grades or flunk out.[/quote]

that's fine, but that is an individual maturity level thing.  If my child is really going to go off to college and flunk out, then college isn't for her at that time. My husband joined the military because that would have been him.  He's a smart guy, but he lacked any kind of direction and was definitely the type who would have just partied his way right out.  He made the right choice for him, but it also made going to college as an adult post-military VERY hard while also trying to hold down a job and have a family.

He wants a different direction for his children.  It is situational, obviously, but we will be pushing for college post-high school.  It is just easier.  But, again, we will let our children know there are consequences if they squander their opportunity.[/quote]

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