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[quote=Anonymous]This post strikes a nerve with me - but as the kid not the parent.  Growing up, my older sibling was brilliant, my dad a respected doctor, and my mom an athlete.  Although they loved me and never flat out said I was a disappointment, it was clear that they had limited expectations for me.  I was deemed the social family member and they seemed happy with my ability to make friends easily, etc.  I never tried to excel in school, or even really paid attention, because I thought it was pointless.  I was not the smart one.  I ended up going to a decent state college and blossomed.  I was at the top of my class, transferred to a better school, ended up at a great law school, and got a job at a prestigious law firm.  My family was shocked by my success.  I truly believe that my family's treatment of me as not that smart deeply impacted my ability to flourish academically until I was away from them.  I think it is very important to make sure you are not limiting your child's potential by even subtly communicating that he/she isn't good enough.

That being said, if your child is average, that is not the end if the world.  Now that I am a parent, I am more focused on overall happiness and making sure my child turns out to be a good person.  I understand that it might be hard to relate to a child so unlike you, but I don't think that's limited to intelligence or athletic ability.  Use this opportunity to broaden your own perspective and realize the value in other things.  My advice is to try to focus on the positive things about your child.  Maybe you are so focused on what made you special that you are missing what is amazing about your child.

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