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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My SIL did this. She was four or five weeks pregnant.[b] I was annoyed.[/b] I gave a hearty congratulations and kept my feelings to myself.[/quote]

Why?  I'm tired of this notion that when a woman has a baby, she thinks the world is supposed to stop and stand around in adulation.  [/quote]

I don't think that, and like I said, I smiled and gave a big "wow! congratulations!" Trust me, I'm not the type to think that a wedding or a baby warrant special treatment. But, it was weird. My in-laws were gazing at their brand new newborn granddaughter and my SIL interrupted with "And we have some news..." You don't think that's a little awkward? She was so newly pregnant that she hadn't even been to the doctor yet. [/quote]

Not really, no.  "And we have some news…I'm pregnant!" "That's great!  When are you due? How are you feeling? So, are you ready for this?"  Conversation takes about 10 mins.  Then people start cooing over the newborn again.  Then they talk about the weather.  Then they talk about recipes.  Is no one allowed to do anything that isn't focused on you and your baby?  For how long?  The whole day?

You had a baby.  It's a big deal, but "big deal" doesn't mean "It's All About Me For Some Defined Period Of Time."  Life is full of big deals.  [/quote]

That's exactly how I handled it. I'm sure no one else knew that I was annoyed, but I was. It wasn't a group of people chatting, it was interrupting new grandparents who were in the middle of meeting their new granddaughter. We hadn't even gotten to the "so how are you guys doing?" portion of the visit.

I didn't make a big deal out of it, of course, but to answer OP's question honestly, yes, I was annoyed. "It's not all about you" cuts both ways. [/quote]

PP, you sound totally normal. Those claiming they would feel otherwise have never been there. When someone has a baby, people who care share in that joy. Too bad your SIL couldn't feel happy for you without thinking of herself.[/quote]

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