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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi All,

LIVID here.  I'm around DCUM but I don't identify myself because it isn't relevant if/when I'm commenting on most stuff.  If I comment on an abortion related thread, I will identify myself as LIVID.  I spent a good portion of 2009 on Capital Hill, and it looked like the appropriations bill would pass without the rider that year until they started debating ACA. The bill had not passed at that time so it was tabled until after ACA passed and you all know what happened with abortion coverage in the ACA.  I'm still very proud of the work I did.  Sen. Feinstein told my story on the floor of the Senate during the ACA abortion coverage debate.  It was incredibly moving.  I was also profiled in the Federal Diary on December 1, 2009.

Unfortunately, my husband and I still aren't parents.  I went through 9 rounds of IVF from 2009-2013.  4 with my own eggs and 5 with DE and I never got pregnant.  I found out too late that I have some immune issues.  I was treated for the very last cycle but it didn't work.  We no longer had the emotional strength (or the cash) to try one more cycle for an uncertain outcome.

We are now trying to adopt.  We have our home study done and are working on advertising on various websites as well as working with a lawyer to adopt a baby.

Overall, we are doing well.  My husband and I have a good life filled with love, friends, family and a big doofus dog.  It took us awhile to make the decision to pursue adoption. We actually saw a couples therapist to help us with the decision and to make sure that we were solid as a couple no matter what we decided.  We decided that we wanted to pursue adoption it but ultimately, we know that it may not work out and we will be ok if we don't become parents.  Our life will be different than we imagined but we won't mourn forever.  
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After you had first posted I discovered that my dad had a sister who was born with anencephaly in 1933.  My grandmother was a nurse and after having her child with anencephaly she went back to school to study prenatal care.  She wasn't ever a happy woman and she never recovered from the loss.  My grandmother was so bitter and angry and would tell her surviving children that God had taken the wrong child. She had often spoken of her beautiful, perfect, daughter who had died suddenly at 4 days of age and she was always referred to by name.  The reality was that she was never officially named and that she lived less than ten minutes.  Her birth certificate and her plot just say "Baby".

When I had made this discovery I had your story fresh in my mind and I was able to share it with my dad and his surviving sibling.  They had a much better understand of their mother and wished they had known the truth earlier.

My uncle passed away having let go of the anger. Thank you.[/quote]

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