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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well good luck because it is clear that your not so subtle attitude will trickle down to him.

It is never appropriate to comment on someone else's appearance or weight in a negative manner. Ever. This shouldn't be a hard thing to teach.[/quote]
You're delusional and quite frankly your attitude is harmful. Being in the healthcare field where people are dying from obesity, it is my duty to tell them the truth to save their lives. Some people are truly clueless and save themselves a lifetime of poor health by getting to a healthy weight. It's too bad that being PC about weight and the culture of dont hurt anyone's feelings is killing Anericans. Can't wait for that mindset to change.[/quote]

Is this OP? If so, serious troll. Come on.

Teach your child that it isn't his place to comment on or mock somebody for their heath, income, looks, or etc. It's not hard at all. I don't agree with you that being fat is not beautiful, because I think beauty is subjective and personal, and it's not something you can define for someone else. And this "new" idea that big is beautiful? Have you ever heard of the term romanesque and do you know where it comes from and why? Now, morbid obesity is dangerous for some people. And sure, some folks should / can be exercising more. At the same time, I know of a few very heavy individuals who have struggled with thyroid and other health issues their entire lives. And there is a lot of new science that shows why some people pack on weight so easily and others do not. Again, not making excuses for anyone (I am rail thin myself) but the point is, other people do not need to make excuses to you or to your son. So you teach your son to worry about what he is doing, not what someone else is doing. It is no more appropriate for him to go up to little Johnny and say "you are obese!" than it is for him to go up to little Johnny and say "your legs don't work!" or "you can't see!" or "You're poor!" or anything else.

Again, I do not agree with you that you or your son are morally superior to heavy people, but let's say you really believe that. Well, I don't want my kid to get tattoos or to start smoking, but I also do not allow him to point at people and say "Look, she has tattoos! She made a permanent mark on her body that she can never erase!" or to point to a smoker and say "you are going to die early!"

This is not a hard lesson. You just don't make fun of anyone for the way they look, whether or not YOU or your son think that they must certainly have made choices to lead them there. Doing so is not nice. You don't want to raise a child to be not nice, do you?

Oh......wait.

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You're are not only a troll, but just a plain dumb ass too. Trolls do come in a shape and sizes, don't they. As a physician for many years, probably longer than you've been alive, I cannot sit by while a layman attempts to trump axiomatic truths about obesity. It is dangerous. I could attach a crap load of lengths from the web so validate that point with bonafide insight from the medical community, but anyone could do that with a two-second google search. Obesity has gotten completely out of control and the numbers of diabetes, heart disease, cancers, arthritis are climbing. You can feel one way or another about the vanity issues surrounding obesity, but that has not impact on the dangerous realities of being fat. We do not serve anyone by coddling the idea that obesity is okay. I had a 22 year old patient who was morbidly obese and admitted for a PE (pulmonary embolus) secondary to obesity. Shockingly, he was the only sibling left of five kids. All of his siblings died from PEs and each one was morbidly obese. I flat out told him he was too goddamn fat. I said it like that because he did not understand the word "obesity". He claimed he had never once been told that he was too big. How awful. I'm assuming his MD was worried about getting sued, hurting his feelings, or facing the wrath of ignorant DCUMers. Whatever the case, it's inexcusable. I'm not okaying degrading someone or implying he/she is unattractive because of being overweight. We all have different values about that. But, I am okaying getting real. Our nation is on a downswing from this and our healthcare system is failing. Wake up people.[/quote]

You are no physician. Otherwise your writing wouldn't be as pathetic, and you would know that it's called a pulmonary embolism, not embolus.[/quote]

[b]Ok, my mistake, pulmonary embolus exists, but I am still horrified at your writing[/b].[/quote]

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