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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks.  I'd be more concerned with her getting a bit on the side than me.  I have a lot more integrity than she gives me credit for.  Plus, I don't need another princess, and that's what a lot of Russian women here - at least those on the prowl for foreign men (and they are fewer and fewer) - seem to think they are.  [/quote]

OP, I am new poster to this thread. Your relationship has bigger issues than this back-up system. It sounds like you are already looking for an out, and don't have much respect left for you wife. I am sure that comes across to her, not trying to justify her behavior.  You seem to be in disagreement over this backup system when really it is about so much more than that between the two of you. From what I am reading, your DW's expectations for your overseas posts where not based in reality- there is not much you can do about that really, but they way you all communicate these expectations (for both of you) can be fixed here if you are willing, I am not sure about whether you are or not, based on your posts here- sounds like a lot of built up resentment between you.

You are frustrated that she expected something different from this lifestyle and the way she chose to handle it, which is fair. She is frustrated that she is home alone with the kids for three years, and even if that was her choice- it is still fair for her to feel like she is carrying a heavier load here. Do I think that entitles her to the insurance payment for whatever reason she is squirreling it away, not necessarily- I think it kinda depends on why she is doing that. If she wants a backup system she should get one with that money, that seems reasonable and logical. I do think it was interesting that another poster mentioned it might have to do with her insecurity about your relationship moving forward. You said you don't want another princess, blah, blah, blah but it doesn't mean she can't sense you are pretty much done even sympathizing with her in the slightest and she is panicking and storing money from when you leave her for someone more like you mom.

Good luck sorting this out, for everyone's sake I hope we have an easier summer, storm wise![/quote]

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