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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just because I think OP was tone deaf on this issue doesn't mean I have sour grapes about her child's success. FWIW my kids have had their share of acceptances and rejections at "several of the top 5 schools" as well.  Oops, now I'm humble bragging. ;)
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Same here! We turned these top privates down for magnets, and now DC is going to an ivy.

Guess what? I posted that OP is clueless and tone deaf, and I believe that. When people asked me about colleges, [b]I had a ready answer that involved a lot of eyerolling about luck and how DC fit a really special niche (not a hook) they needed[/b], all to make it seem like this wasn't a judgment on their kids. It's not hard to be kind and thoughtful in this process, and it costs nothing when you're already really happy about your own kid's outcome. It just seems like OP is absorbed in her own wonderfulness that she doesn't want to make the effort.[/quote]

False modesty is just as obnoxious as ill-concealed envy.  How does this model or teach maturity to your kids?  It only teaches that it's reasonable to be envious of others and to expect others to downplay their successes because you are too fragile to accept reality.  Not a lesson I want my kids learning in either direction.  Whatever happened to the expectation that we all shake hands, say "good game," and sulk in private or preferably not at all?[/quote]

Oh, grow up. Please. And grow some brain cells. Try to figure out the difference between "disappointment" and "envy." Also, try to figure out the difference between modesty and false modesty, if you can, although I suspect introspection is not your forte. Try to figure out the difference between a kids' sports game and a potentially life-changing event. Also, nobody here has ever said that envy is OK, so stop repeating that. And finally, stop pretending we're on the playing fields of Eton in order to justify your inability to feel comopassion.

Don't you have a clue what compassion is? It's empathy and understanding. By definition, it's with regard to someone who is suffering. Nobody on this thread has EVER said that envy is a good thing. I'm sure the disappointed parents don't want to feel envy. But they can't avoid it for a few weeks until they can get over it. So wipe that sh!t-eating grin off your smug mug, and join the human race.

(PS, don't come back at me with your lame retort about sour grapes, because I'm pretty sure you'd want your kid to trade places with my kid, I'm not naming the school though.)[/quote]

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