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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You know three things that WOULD offend me?

1, if my MIL demanded we have a big wedding but wouldn't pay more than $1,500 for it.

2, if I went ahead and planned a traditional wedding at my MIL's insistence and she was complaining about the cost of attending my wedding (you said your son moved far away and met a girl, so even if this wasn't in Mexico I'm assuming you would be traveling far to her hometown).

3, I paid for a traditional wedding for my daughter that she didn't even really want and her future MIl threw a fit because she wanted her name on the invite even though she refused to pay for even the traditional groom stuff (rehearsal dinner and alcohol I think?)[/quote]

They aren't having a rehearsal dinner or wedding party. They're having the wedding in Mexico because they claim it's less expensive there than in the States. However, they vacation there twice a year so I think it's just that they like Mexico. Also, I haven't thrown a fit in any way. Only our immediate family knows how upset DH and I are about this, unless my son and DIL have told others. I didn't scream or yell, didn't threaten, etc. We are just hurt, that's all. [b]I am really shocked at for how many of you, money seems to buy love. There is a whole other world out there people, a world where some can not afford everything. [/b][/quote]

OP can you really be this ignorant of your own behavior? I haven't posted yet on this thread but I have been following it. Bottom line, you are wrong- but I guess you are entitled to your feelings. IF your son had intended to have this wedding and you couldn't afford to help, that would be perfectly understandable. IF you insisted on having a wedding to attend but still couldn't afford to help that would also be somewhat understandable. BUT to continue to play the victim in this situation that you created- it is your failing.

I had sympathy for you for awhile, but posters have tried to enlighten you about the real cost of weddings and have tried to actually help you so that you could have a future relationship with you DIL and possible grandchildren (some more constructive than others.) And in turn you come back and act like everyone trying to help you is money focused, as if your selfishness has anything to do with what you can afford instead of your extremely poor behavior. Shame on your OP, there is no reaching you and you deserve all the hard feelings and distance you will earn with your son's future family.

I wish for you son's sake he had eloped, because you have found a way to punish him for it for the rest of his life. Great job making this all about you instead of the bride and groom, is that tradition in your culture?

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