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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They aren't having a rehearsal dinner or wedding party. They're having the wedding in Mexico because they claim it's less expensive there than in the States. However, they vacation there twice a year so I think it's just that they like Mexico. Also, I haven't thrown a fit in any way. Only our immediate family knows how upset DH and I are about this, unless my son and DIL have told others. I didn't scream or yell, didn't threaten, etc. We are just hurt, that's all. I am really shocked at for how many of you, money seems to buy love. There is a whole other world out there people, a world where some can not afford everything. [/quote]

I'm about ready to vote to end this thread.

OP, clearly money isn't needed to buy love.  Your future DIL loves your son enough to convert and raise her children in his/your faith tradition.  Your son loves you enough to agree to have a wedding you can attend instead of eloping.

No one is denigrating you for not having more money such that you can meaningfully co-host this important event in your child's life.  Most of us don't have unlimited budgets, I know that I certainly can't afford everything that I'd like or want to have.

I'm sorry you are hurt, but focusing on having your names on the invitations as an expression of love as opposed to understanding that it's not "wrong" from a traditional etiquette perspective is simply allowing yourself to wallow in self-pity.  It's rare that DCUM can come together pretty unanimously on a subject, especially on a thread that's multiple pages long.  Do some soul-searching.  You reached out for feedback, and you got a pretty unanimous response that this should not offend you and in fact it's probably pretty shallow of you to be offended.
Best of luck.[/quote]

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