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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I hope you get the all clear in your results later this week.  I can't say what I would have done in your shoes with a DS/T21 child.  My then-husband made it clear he did not want a SN pregnancy carried to term.  Nor would he have been a good parent to a SN child, but I digress..

What I do know is that I/we made the decision to terminate a T18 pregnancy at 22 weeks.  It was heart wrenching for us in different ways, and that was knowing our dx was incompatible with life.  We were told that my uterus was acting as both life support and a vice for the baby, with no amniotic fluid whatsoever.  Tests revealed multiple organ defects or absent completely.

My advice to you is clinical more than anything, because the emotional part is unique to you.  If you do decide to terminate, I hope you can find an OB/GYN or Perinatologist who will point you to an OB who will administer a lethal injection to the baby's heart, which is far more compassionate than a live birth on a frail baby, or a D&C.  We found a brave doctor who despite working for a religiously affiliated hospital, agreed to the procedure for us on a Saturday with the office closed, payable in cash.  I still feel this is such a travesty for women to feel like it's a back alley option, even with such dx's as these.

It was awful, I prayed and cried when he gave the injection, and the next few days to be scheduled for delivery seemed forever.  We had a service for him, and took pictures (he was beautiful in every way externally) and got some closure that way.

I wish you peace in whatever option you choose.  It's never an easy decision, always ultimately personal, and the strain on your marriage either way is immense.  Best wishes for you and your family![/quote]

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