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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am sorry OP. I can completely see how this must hurt.

When you brought up not hosting Thanksgiving did you follow immediately with other options ("perhaps one of you will host all of us this year?" or "shall we go to a restaurant instead?") or did you just discuss your decision to not host? Unless you followed with other possible options for your sons and their families this Thanksgiving you inadvertently "broke the pattern" and allowed all other options to now be on the table. [/quote]

This. I think your sons and their families took what you said and came up with alternate plans so you wouldn’t have to host. My in laws always hosted Thanksgiving. If MIL said she didn’t want to host anymore, I would take that as an opportunity to do something different with just my immediate family, especially when my kids were young! It’s a lot of work (as you know) and if your grandkids are very young, and your sons and DILS work full time, it might be too much for them to take on.[/quote]

I feel like travelling is more of a PITA than hosting Thanksgiving for 6-10 people. We have now hosted 2 very low-key Thanksgivings. We don’t make as many dishes as my grandmother and her sisters made for our 40 person extended family Thanksgiving of years gone by, but it’s plenty for 8-10 people. My DH is an extremely good project manager and turns those skills onto getting the timing right for the various dishes. When we travel for the big Thanksgiving reunion I tend to find it more exhausting. But that one is now fully catered. [/quote]

I agree with this, IF you just have to host Thanksgiving dinner (or even the whole day).  I find it completely overwhelming to host bc my relatives stay for a few days at my house and I have 2 small kids.  By a few days, I mean 5. My mom is really old and unhealthy (and cranky) so we can't exactly kick her out after dinner, but boy is it exhausting/not fun for me.[/quote]

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