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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The issue is not her cooking skills.  The issue is that her dad is a d@ck.  
Most of us with teens, especially teen athletes, make arrangements to cook for their needs, not for our middle aged needs.  So for instance I’ll make a pasta dish with meat and veg and the teens get more meat and pasta and I’ll get more veg.  But I’m not going to put a plate of roasted veg and fish in front of teen athletes and pretend that’s a complete meal for them.  And some people just don’t like fish.  It’s rude, bordering on emotionally abusive, to repeatedly cook fish for a teen that you know hates fish.  Yes, she can make a sandwich but what does it say about him and his feelings for her that this is his approach?  She’s a very busy teen athlete who probably doesn’t get enough sleep and probably doesn’t have enough time to do her homework and whose parents just got a divorce and she’s probably a little upset about that, and this is what the dad does to make her life easier?  
I am team mom here because dad is going out of his way to be a d@ck or is so self-centered that he can’t even see that maybe he should be thinking more about how to make her life a little easier at this stressful moment in her life.
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For a teen athlete with hours of homework, it's not that easy for her to take out pots and pans, cook herself a full dinner, and then clean up. A sandwich isn't that filling. But yes, it would behoove the daughter to also learn how to cook. If dad cared, he could prep family dinner and then help DD by teaching her just to cook her own portion of chicken or something and then wash the dishes while she does homework.

It would suit her to learn to cook, but the dad could also be less of a jerk. He's providing the bare minimum so it's not CPS territory or going to court territory, but it is "don't expect daughter to make any effort to visit you once she turns 18" territory.[/quote]

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