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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m the cause of the dead bedroom.
My husband is smart, funny, sexy, and I love him.
But I’m 52 with ZERO sex drive. There is no turning me on. There is no orgasm. I’ve been like this for a few years. I have thought about HRT and am on the fence about starting it as there are many risks.
We have sex every other week, sometimes more often. Only because I feel obligated to, not because I enjoy it because I don’t. 
I would love to have the sex drive I had in my 30s. 
I don’t know what the solution is. Men can get viagra but women have no options that don’t carry significant risks. 
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I know it can be hard to find healthcare providers willing to go down this route, but you might consider supplemental testosterone either alone or as part of an HRT mix. I had a doctor who was researching the ways that low testosterone levels affect women’s general health, and he recommended trying compounded testosterone for my other health problems.

Holy cow! I didn’t actually notice any change to my general health, but it made a dramatic difference to my drive. Combined with vaginal estrogen to address perimenopausal tissue changes, I’m back to feeling decades younger in both the mental and physical aspects of desire.

(Note: no one should feel like you HAVE to have the desire of a younger woman when you’re in the midst of menopausal changes. I’m sure Nature makes these changes for a reason, and it takes effort to swim against that current. I’m not a youth-at-all-costs type, eg I personally don’t plan any interventions to my face or body as I age. But if this is an area that bothers you and affects your relationship, the hormones are an option that might really help.)[/quote]

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