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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Am I the only one on this whole long-ass thread who has a problem with "Everyone must be included in everything"?[/quote]

No.  I've been railing against this for years.  Not everyone is going to like you, you won't be invited to every party, you won't be the best at everything, and you don't deserve a trophy just for participating.  I hate this mentality and I will fight against it until I die.  I want my kid to have a real sense of self-esteem and a realistic estimation of his strengths and weaknesses, to be able to productively cope with failure and disappointment, and to learn that he is capable of navigating the world successfully on his own.

I do not want him turning into one of these 18 year olds that falls apart in their freshman year of college and has a nervous breakdown b/c I failed as a parent.[/quote]

I agree with you on the "everyone must be included" stuff.  And I am totally anti "everyone is a winner/gets a trophy".  But I do think there is a big difference between not including someone and openly excluding them.  If the OP's daughter said, "you can not sit here" (and that's what she said happened), she was in the wrong.  That is simply a mean thing to say.  That's totally different from simply not inviting a classmate to sit next to her.[/quote]

No one is disagreeing with you on that point.  But people are not perfect, kids are not perfect, and they have to learn this stuff, and they all do it.  Parents hyperventilating, calling kids names, and getting up in arms about it to the point of fighting their kids' battles is not helpful and it crappy parenting.[/quote]

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