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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What kind of money are you talking about? You send $300 a month or $6000?[/quote]

More than $300 and less than $6000.  We were paying for a non-professional to stop by my mother's house for a couple hours a day several days a week.[/quote]

Ok well I know from personal experience that isn't that much money. You're loaded according to you. Just send the $1000 a month and be done with it. These non professionals work for peanuts and you know it.[/quote]

Except we no longer need the non professional because she won't be living at home.  That's my point.[/quote]

But you were never sending that much to begin with. Now you're reimbursing your sister for her time, gas, mileage and everything else that goes with this ongoing care because every little need isn't covered by a home.[/quote]

The nursing home is practically right next door to her job.  Literally less than a minute away.  That was part of the appeal for her.  So there’s no gas or mileage involved.  As for reimbursing her for her time, nope—I’m not reimbursing her for her time visiting her mother.

In any event, as I noted in my first post, she specifically said she wanted the money to pay Larla for continuing to visit.  That’s what confuses me.

But whatever.  I’m paying it. [/quote]

You are starting to appear petty.   [b]If your sister asked for the money she must need it.[/b]

The way you described how you feel about your mother was kind of odd.  “I don’t really like her” Another sibling doesn’t really like her either and another kind of likes her”.   This sometimes comes out later in life when an elder relative needs their family.  They come start talking about long ago slights or a time when the parent wasn’t there for a period of time because she was sicker than you realized as a child.  I’ve heard some real trivial situations that 60 year old women hold on to and use it to justify why they’re not going to help.

Just help with money, it’s the easiest way to assist with your mother’s care.  [/quote]

She doesn't need the money.  She's taking something on that she feels she should, and because she feels that way she assumes the rest of us feel the same way.  And because we don't live there, she feels our way of taking it on is sending money.

Except we don't feel the same way as her.

As for "I don't really like her," here's the thing:  my sister NEVER did.  They NEVER got along.  And now all of the sudden our mother is all she ever talks about.  Every text and every conversation is about our mother.  It's just so odd.  My behavior and attitude towards our mother is the same as it has ever been.  Like my brother said, our mother has always been an a$$hole.  Now she's just an older a$$hole.  [/quote]

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