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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am somewhat surprised that you think he should move on from a relationship with his daughter. I know age 17 seems mature, but it isn't. You need to encourage your daughter to stick to the visitation schedule so he has a chance to develop a relationship with her as she becomes a young adult. No, you can't force her, but you can tell her it's important to you that she do so. Can you guys come to a compromise here? He's not wrong...[/quote]

He's entirely wrong. If he lived close to her school or drove her to activities, then he would be actually helpful to her, instead of eating away extra time she does not have. You don't seem to understand that high schoolers are BUSY. Incredibly so. My teen right now doesn't have a minute to spare between her activities, keeping up her grades, and preparing for AP exams in May. If she had to schlep to a different house further away, that wouldn't work at all, regardless of how much she loved that parent!

And that's before we take into consideration this insane person's constant threats. That's not how you build a relationship with your teen. He should have been a good parent so that she'd have wanted a relationship in the first place, enough to make an effort to talk to him and visit him. But here? No way. He has shown that he cannot connect with his child on an emotional level and resorts to threats to force a physical presence. He does not understand the first thing about being a parent, and probably will never understand.

The only reason to stay courteous is to make college payments run smoothly, if he agreed to contribute. College is incredibly expensive, and it's worth biting your tongue and making some compromises for that.

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No, he’s not her taxi service.  Of course your teen has time.  [b]I hope this dad does not pay for college if he’s no longer having a relationship.[/b]  [/quote]
This is absolutely insane. You are probably a deadbeat dad all pissed off that you don’t know how to have a healthy relationship with a woman or your child and you’re projecting some “gold digger” crap because you think the fact you have a job gives you inherent value. (spoiler, it doesn’t)[/quote]

If you aren't a gold digger and don't want your kids to have a relationship with their dad, why are you still taking his money?  If you want to be the sole parent, that includes financial responsibiliies.[/quote]

Spoken like a true dead beat that you are. If they have 50/50 custody agreement, it is very unlikely that she gets child support. Now, let me explain to you what child support is. It's court-mandated for men like you who think that their measly couple of hundred a month means they can behave any which way they want. It goes towards providing for the child you brought into this world. It is not out of the goodness of your heart or a favor to the mother of your child. It's the bare minimum to ensure that the actual parent gets a little bit of help.[/quote]

With 50-50 often child support is paid. Kid has two parents.  Why should mom only get to make all the decisions if it’s 59-50?[/quote]

She isn't. The daughter is. If the father wants to enforce visitation, he can come get his child. [b]But then what would he have to tantrum about?[/b][/quote]
This is exactly it! Controlling, spiteful, man child. Antagonizing his ex and weaponizing his daughter against her is his life goal. Glad you divorced him, OP. Hang in there. [/quote]

No, she’s the problem.  [/quote]

No, you're the problem, deadbeat. [/quote]

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