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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If your bar for a happy marriage is that your husband understands you implicitly without explanations and discussions... you're going to be continually disappointed, OP.

You cannot realistically ask that of a normal human being. [b]You need to accept that you will often have to defend, persuade, convince your spouse regarding your opinions, needs and wants.[/b]

I don't know why you're even complaining. He's complying with your request!!!

Seriously. You're acting quite spoiled.
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WTF? Um, no. [/quote]

Oh, you want a partner who will just agree with everything you say? If the shoe were on the other foot, [b]would you think it normal for a husband to expect this from his wife?[/b]

You are not being fair.
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Well, for starters, OP is a SAHM, so yes, I think it would be normal for a SAHD to want some uninterrupted time away from his kids if he were home with them all the time. Why do you think that's so weird?

And no, I don't want a partner will who just agree with everything I say, but I do want a partner who respects my wishes. But you do, enjoy litigating every little thing with your spouse. [/quote]
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You are contradicting yourself. You cannot dictate what your spouse is allowed to counter. [/b]Clearly OP's husband, like many husbands, doesn't feel confident alone with 3 kids. It's disappointing, but it's nothing surprising. So OP got pushback on the overnight hotel stay, which she could have predicted. What matters is that she got what she wanted.

None of this is surprising to me, PP. I think OP's husband's pushback is entirely reasonable, and it's also normal that he came to accept OP's request.

In fact, none of this warrants a thread. But Mother's Day and Valentine's Day triggers some women to an unholy degree on DCUM. It's interesting, because there isn't that much conflict over who cooks and hosts for Thanksgiving and Christmas. It seems that women on DCUM accept they need to do most of the work for those celebrations. But as soon as their husband doesn't divine what they want to V Day or M Day or they need an explanation... woe to them!

It just doesn't make sense.
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Are you dim? If I want to spend $36,000 on a new Birkin, I can absolutely expect for my husband to express his thoughts on that idea. Some things warrant a discussion. One night away for a SAHM shouldn't be a big ask. It's pathetic that you think it is, and even more pathetic that you think it's not surprising that a dad "doesn't feel confident alone with 3 kids." What kind of loser are you married to and what kind of useless men do you know? So yes, that is surprising, I don't know men like that, except for one, and he's definitely a loser.

What matters isn't that she got what she wanted, it's that her husband wasn't willing to support her desired Mother's Day plans. You're either a sorry excuse for a husband or a woman married to one trying to make yourself feel better. Either way, yuck. [/quote]

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