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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some of you that don’t want your MIL to compliment you and your kids sound insane to me. My MIL often says I’m a great/amazing mom and also throws in that I’m a great/amazing wife sometimes. I tend to cringe a tiny bit on the great wife part since I think of that as a little old fashioned. But I know she loves me and means well. I’m super appreciative she feels this way about me. We have two kids with complicated medical stuff so this means a lot to me.[/quote]

You're wrong. We don't want insincere compliments. I don't want to be told how amazing and perfect I am when I am feeling that I am behind and not being the mom/wife/employee I want to be. Just help me by volunteering to take your grandkids a few hours in the evening or weekend or pick up a fill-in grocery order, etc. if I'm throwing a family bbq, come over early to help me set up or watch the kids. Think about what help you needed and offer those things. I don't need flattery and deference to my mom. [/quote]

NP- Agreed! Also, deference to my mom also hurts dh's feelings. He wonders why his family doesn't interact, help us, or visit us and only my family does. [/quote]

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