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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn’t let my 27 year old child move back home let alone a 27 year old STEP child. Stop shaming OP.[/quote]

This. 27 is too old for any adult child to move home. It's probably the beginning or continuation of a long-term codependency. [/quote]

I think it depends on the circumstances. A generally responsible, hard-working kid who got caught up in a layoff, is burning through their emergency savings, and is having a tough time in this economy? Absolutely, I’d be a safety net as they keep job searching. A kid who finds themself in a bad marriage and needs a place to land while assets are split and they save for a new place to live? Yep, again, I’d be here with open arms. Wanting to live at home for a year or two to save up for an downpayment? Sounds great to me. Or, a devastating medical diagnosis like cancer would have me welcoming them back.

A grown adult who thinks they are going to play video games all day, not help around the house, and not need to find a job will need a loving “no.”

We have no idea what the real story is about OP’s stepchild. But if they’re a gamer who doesn’t want to get a job, then I don’t blame her for not wanting an endless roommate.[/quote]

It also depends on OP’s relationship with her stepson and her husband.  Many second marriages are holding on by a thread and moving in an unwanted 27 year old stepkid would break them, especially if it’s the husband’s kid and the husband is weak but OP has no jurisdiction. No one wants to feel powerless in their own home.  OP is too old to waste time living like that. [/quote]

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