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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Just got the save the date for a wedding for my BIL's wedding in the midwest. Would you assume "Mr and Mrs Smith" on the envelope means just the couple and no kids? I expect the actual invitation will have more clarity with the RSVP options, but we have a baby who will be a little over a year old at the time of the wedding and I need to feel out child care options with my side of the family as early as possible if he isn't invited.

And yes, DH and I could just ask but that feels annoying. Maybe I'm over thinking it. I'm a little surprised this wedding would be no kids as the couple are both youngest children and all of their siblings have young kids and most live out of state like we do. [b]Feels like a lot of important people will not be able to make and/or have to leave the reception early if no kids are allowed.[/b]
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Lots of evening weddings do not include kids. Why would that mean people can't go or would need to leave early?  [b]If the wedding couple are actually important to you, babysitters are a thing[/b].[/quote]

Big narcissism here. If they invited guests, two of probably hundreds, are actually important to you, extend an invitation that they can accept without paying thousands for childcare (flying out another family member, funding an additional hotel room).

In my large family where people like each other but also enjoy adult only weddings, the most common solution has been for the bridal couple (or their parents) to rent an additional hotel room/suite, hire one or two local nannies, and the cousins below wedding age have a big pizza party and sleepover with movies. [/quote]

No thanks. If something goes wrong I wouldn't want to be liable for a bad babysitter in that situation. Get your own better sitter or just skip. Has nothing to do with liking each other. In my family where we do like each other we have no problems finding our own sitters and making the wedding.[/quote]

As long as you’re good with people skipping and can the self-aggrandizing “if the wedding couple is actually important to you” nonsense.  Lots of things are important and an expectation to be the MOST important is narcissism.

Though if you have the kind of family that would hold you “liable for a bad babysitter” I can see where it comes from.[/quote]

Well I've been married for 20 years so I really don't give a fart. But, no I wouldn't find a sitter for someone nor would I trust someone to find my own sitter. Most people I know don't want a stranger hired by someone else to watch their kids in a hotel room. Kind of a strange idea but I guess if you care more about partying then it makes sense.[/quote]

In the modern day, Nanny agencies with vetted employees are available for events. I certainly trust my retired-teacher aunt to engage a suitable Nanny for an event in which I will be in the same building, and my cousins trusted my mother to do the same at my wedding. Do you have especially cheap or irresponsible family members who would hire someone shady?[/quote]

The idea that the couple getting married is going to book childcare on-site is a fantasy. Never heard of it in real life. They just don't want your kids, all associated planning and cost is on you the parents. [/quote]

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