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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If I waited until I was in the mood we’d probably have sex three times a month. I have sex with my husband 2-3 times a week because he loves it and would literally have sex 2-3 times a day.

He does a lot for me.  It’s really the least I can do ([b]and I usually end up enjoying it anyway[/b]). [/quote]

So this thread is not for you. It's not right to encourage women who REALLY don't want sex into having sex, just "to preserve the relationship", or some other sense of obligation. Sex is not like making a nice meal, or buying a surprise gift, etc. It's invasive and physical, and when you're not in the mood, it can hurt and feel really wrong, in a way that no lubricant can ever compensate for.

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DP. Multiple perspectives on a topic is healthy, so I disagree this thread is only for one type of experience. It’s very possible PP could be having no sex like OP. She’s having sex because she’s taking a different view of things.

I also disagree with your framing PP’s comment as ‘I have sex to preserve the relationship,’ which is provocative and not articulated in her comment.

For many men and women, sex is an important part of a relationship. Generally, when intimacy collapses it signals other aspects of relationship collapse and the possibility of divorce or a roommate-like trajectory increase.

I would talk to a doctor and if I were the OP. I would ask my spouse if and how the drop in intimacy has impacted him and then listen without defensiveness.  [/quote]

Very Fair [/quote]

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