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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You have to tell him. This is very strange behavior and he needs to know.

And I know he’ll ask you if you’re sure if it’s her. Did you happen to take a picture?[/quote]
OP here. I did! My main concern is that this is some sort of manipulation attempt to get him to reach out. She has done this in the past, feigning medical emergencies, etc. I theorize she believes we have a working camera and may notice her and reach out asking why, or maybe hopes a neighbor notices and asks? Does that make sense?

If there was a real issue or emergency, wouldn’t she or someone else reach out to DH? It just feels manipulative somehow, I just know her too well. [/quote]

No, it doesn’t make sense.  Why would she think it likely that if you had a camera, it would pick her up PARKED ACROSS THE STREET?  Wouldn’t she expect any cameras to be focused on your own home?  Do you make a habit of spying on your neighbors.  While it is possible your neighbor might ask why she keeps parking in front of their house, sitting in a car and looking around is hardly feigning a medical emergency.

I think it far more likely that she loves and misses her son, but is trying to respect his wish for no contact.  By coming during the day when you and your neighbors are unlikely to be present, and staying in her car on public property, she can reassure herself that your family seems to be doing okay, without intruding on you at all.  It’s hard to imagine how she plans on manipulating you when she seems to be avoiding your attention.

I do think you should tell your husband, because I believe a married couple should always be open and honest without secrets between them.  [b]I would hope, however, that you would consider the possibility that her motives are less sinister than the conspiracy theories you’ve imagined and present the data to him as neutrally as possible, allowing him to interpret them for himself.  [/b]Of course, if he asks for your opinion, you should be open and honest about that as well.  I obviously don’t have the context of experience that you do and may be completely wrong, maybe she is scheming to bring drama back into your lives.  I have no way of knowing if your conclusions are right or wrong; I just think you should consider all possibilities.[/quote]

What a load. You biddies always assume the wife is manipulating the husband and you want her walking on eggshells when she tells her husband. Op can opine away all she wants. Her husband is a grown man who can and will decide for himself. This would bug me and I would feel free to express my opinion. [/quote]

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