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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents don’t make near what op makes but even right in my 40s if I called them up and said I was having trouble buying basic necessities they would help me. This thread is wild. What does op hate her daughter so much?[/quote]

I do NOT hate my daughter. I think it's pathetic of her to rely on me and DH to buy basics like shampoo for her, and I told her that her poor decision making capabilities (majoring in English at Oberlin when she started college at HYPS and was a STEM major) would lead her to being underemployed. I told her when she was in school that DH and I wouldn't give her a SINGLE CENT after she graduated. We explicitly made it clear that we would NOT help her buy a used car after she graduated and that she was free to buy a car herself with car loans if she wanted a car but couldn't save up for one (which we knew would happen because she has a BA in a useless field).

We told her that she HAD to double major in a practical field because we knew she would end up in a position where she couldn't support herself with a BA in English. But of course, she wouldn't listen.

Oh and BTW PP, I think any adult who needs to rely on the bank of mom and dad to buy things like toiletries is, to put it simply, pathetic. [/quote]

You sound like a horrible person.

I have three siblings, and all of us moved "back home" for various reasons 1 or more times in our 20s for 6 months to a year at a time, at different times. We were all working hard but needed a little help here and there. Things like, one of us was underemployed and had just broken up with a live in partner, so moved home for 6 months, then moved out once we landed a better paying job. Another of us got married super young but then moved home for awhile while their enlisted spouse was deployed to save money and also so they didn't have to live alone. This is perfectly normal...it is NORMAL for parents to care about their adult children and help them here and there in their 20s. They've also given us some help here and there on things like house down payments, cosigning on a car loan for one of us to get a better interest rate etc. It is normal for parents to care about their adult children and want to help them. I will do the same for mine when they reach adulthood too. And when our parents age more, WE will be helping them (just like they have also done for THEIR parents.)

[b]You sound like a complete psychopath and it's insane someone on the internet needs to explain to you that it's normal for families to care about one another.[/b] [/quote]

:roll:  :roll:  :roll:

YOU are the one who sounds like a psychopath by armchair diagnosing random posters through your screen. Maybe your family gives money nilly willy to adult children, but DH and I definitely do NOT believe in that. At all.

And just because I'm not willing to let my daughter LITERALLY rob me and hack into my credit card doesn't mean that I "don't care about her."

Jesus Christ. [/quote]

If what you got out of my post is that my parents give money "willy nilly," I don't know what else to say.[/quote]

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