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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][img][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well that was a read. I found it a bit sophomoric. It puts forth a dichotomous view of the life building that happens in your 20s as if people can’t walk and chew gum at the same time. It also only highlights the authors values around early marriage and children (which appear religiously driven) while glossing over any inconvenient statistics on higher divorce rates for people under 24 (and the potential fallout for any kids of those unions) and let’s not even mention any data on rates of abuse, alcoholism, etc. in financially struggling families.

Imo the author fails to acknowledge the gravity of marriage and the choosing of a life partner. He’s quick to lay out all the “selfish” things to avoid - like trips to Thailand - but that’s all surface noise. It ignores the meat and potatoes of building a partnership and family. And maybe he does that because, like Charlie Kirk, he comes at this perspective based on religious beliefs so in his mind religion should be the foundation of any marriage - but from a sociological perspective - of which he is a professor - that ignores a huge swath of society.

He also used the phrase “put a ring on it” twice. 🤢

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Exactly. There is anecdotal evidence in both directions, as evidenced by the comments here, but it is important to look at actual data. I’m happy for everyone whose personal timeline has worked well for them (mine included, and I’m on the later side to marriage and parenthood), but I don’t draw larger conclusions and wouldn’t presume to tell others what’s best for them. [/quote]

You never advised your children on what was best for them?[/quote]

I don’t think you’re that dense, but I’ll play along. I guess I should specify that I wouldn’t tell large groups of total strangers through articles how they should approach marriage and child bearing based on my personal experience. (If my child wants advice on that subject, I would use my knowledge of him/her, their level of maturity, their specific relationship, and all the other information I had to offer my thoughts.)

It will always be true that some people mature faster than others. Some are stable sooner than others. Some can handle the strains of child rearing sooner than others. Some meet their soul mates sooner than others. For each argument in favor of early marriage, there is an equal argument in favor of waiting. This is one area in which one size cannot fit all. [/quote]

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