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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Everyone in here tut tutting “you shouldn’t have been striving for an Ivy, you should have raised your child to be kind and have lots of friends” would drown Mother Theresa in the blood of kittens to get their kid into an Ivy.[/quote]

PP, which is it?  Are you a tiger parent, striver, troll, Ivy grad, or combo?

Mother Theresa is dead.  And I am kitten safe.

I didn't make my kid take the SATs more than once.  And I let him drop off the WL for his grandparents' Ivy.  [b]Because he really wanted to go elsewhere. [/b] I went to a flagship but I make almost exactly the same money and have achieved similarly to my sibling who went to that Ivy.  Both of us feel that personality and gender have been bigger factors in our career trajectory than where we went to school.[/quote]

The part in bold is a worthwhile lesson here:

- don’t force your kid if they really do not want to go.

Both of my kids qualified for a certain competitive, prestigious, public school in Virginia.

The first adamantly opposed going; we listened, did not make them go, and they have thrived.

The other is at that HS.  He knows several kids there who were forced into it and are simply miserable.  There have been suicides.

I understand entirely what OP is saying.[/quote]

We havr friends who forced their kid to apply ED to Cornell against the kids wishes. The kid hates it there and has taken a semester off but parents want him to go back and finish and would not let him transfer to another school.[/quote]

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