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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]7:07 That is not remotely similar. That was something that happened to her in life and she would have no idea how you would take it. How would she know you would have been bothered by the sheer mention of your ex's name? This is about an insult that someone gave about OP when they were specifically invited by OP to enjoy in OP's hospitality. This friend of yours that ran into your ex isn't insulting you or anything you've done. You sound like a drama queen always looking for the negative. [/quote]
DP I think it's pretty common sense that it's courteous not to bring up people's exes to them. I don't do that, but I'm polite.[/quote]

If someone told me they had run into ANY of my exes I wouldn't be upset with them. But I'm not a drama queen. [/quote]

DP. I think it depends on the situation. I wouldn't be upset with someone who brought up one of my exes but there are situations where it would be awkward. Also it might depend on how they brought it up.

I had a friend once who ALWAYS brought up this woman I'd worked with and not gotten along with, whenever we hung out. Sometimes she'd tell me mean or negative things about this woman, I think to try and get me to gossip. Other times she'd tell me positive things, I'm not sure why. I would generally respond by saying something like "that's nice" or "that's too bad" and then "you know I'm not friends with her, so..." and then try to change the subject. But she still kept doing it.

I don't know if she was trying to bait me or if maybe just did it compulsively but it was really annoying and over time I stopped hanging out with this friend because the conversation was boring and awkward. So even when it's not *offensive* to be bringing up an ex (or in this case an ex-colleague), [b]it's a weird thing to keep mentioning[/b] and indicates poor conversational skills and lack of situational awareness. Why not talk about something you both enjoy instead?[/quote]

Sure, but it sounds like in the example the person mentioned it once?[/quote]

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