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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it’s fine for you to decide you don’t want the person around bc that specific comment (even if trivial to some) is a trust breaker for you.

I had a friend for years I was very close to, we’d gone on family trips together, been there for milestones. She had a big personality and would often say little things I’d brush off as just her being unfiltered. Then one time, very casually and laughing, she made a really mean comment about my dh out of the blue and laughing. That was it for me and I distanced myself.[/quote]

I had a friend like this and I also hit a breaking point. I'm someone who will give someone a lot of rope if the "offense" is just talk, but there are limits and at some point you've just had enough. I also think in my case the "friend" was actually intentionally being rude to me out of some hostility (no idea where it came from) and then was concealing it with[b] "just kidding."[/b] Earlier on when I thought maybe she was just very uncouth or didn't have a good filter, I was forgiving, but with time it really started to seem like the comments were intended to make me feel bad. I stopped feeling like I was getting anything good out of the relationship.[/quote]

This wouldn't fly with me. We may all say things we regret, but apologizing for those things is how you handle it, not by saying you were just kidding. [/quote]

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