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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do feel the boy should pay for dates.  But as teens, I would not expect nor encourage (by us paying for) expensive gifts and dinners.  I would encourage him to work for spending money, and/or do free cheap dates and make inexpensive gifts for each other.  [/quote]

Why should boys pay?   Each pay their own except a special occasion.  Parents, pay, not teens.  My kid is saving his money for retirement and college.  I’m not paying for your kid every meal.  If they are with us, we’d pay but them hanging out or a date, no. [/quote]

I have a boy and a girl and I can tell you it’s significantly more expensive for girls to look like typically dressed and groomed girls in this area than it is for boys to do the same. I tell both my kids to be generous and considerate about paying but it’s more complicated than you suggest. [/quote]

It is only more expensive is they choose it to be. Guys can choose to be into skin care products, fashion, brands, and hair care too if they want to be, but many choose not to be. Girls can also choose to be into that stuff or not into it. It isn't more expensive for girsl to be dressed and groomed than boys. [/quote]

You conveniently overlooked the “typically” part.

Look, if my teen daughter (or anyone else’s) wants to be like the boys she knows and wear gym shorts and oversized t shirts year round and only get their hair cut when it’s so moppy that it interferes with driving more power too them! I would be thrilled!  But let’s not pretend she wining stand out as different with that approach.

Note: I’m not saying that boys need to pay for her on dates because she spends more on clothes and haircuts than that, I just think it’s disingenuous to discuss this without acknowledging what these kids spend their money on. [/quote]

Most kids at my kids school - boy and girl wear sweats and hoodies. The girls aren't out spending hundreds of dollars to look pretty for the boys so that the boys will spend money on them. I am very glad that isn't the high school culture my son or daughter are part of. Girls have far more worth than their looks, and boys have far more worth than their wallets. Your view that your teen daughter spends money to look pretty so he better spend money on her is a sad view to me.[/quote]

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