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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]“Sorry! It’s already been winterized. We’re opening it back up in April and would love to host you then. Let’s catch up soon!”[/quote]

NO. Stop giving details that could be argued or backfire on you. Why do people think they have to come up with a scenario? Just say “No, that won’t work.” [/quote]

Not directed at you but I don't get the love on DCUM for "that won't work." What won't work? The dates? The extra person? Or is the friend uninvited forever? To me that invites more questions and arguing.

I think it's so much better and clearer to say that the invitation is for hosting the friend while the OP is there, and they do not allow people to stay there without them because of (reasons). No reasonable person would argue back, but if they do, THEN you can say "sorry, that won't work for us." And then it's all very clear that the invite is still open for the friend to visit them, but they are not invited to use the house as an air B&B. [/quote]

More rudeness.

No one is required to offer an explanation. Saying less and lying less is the adult option. No one owes anyone else an explanation. People who are rude and cross boundaries and take advantage of people might argue back. That would make it easier to hang up the phone and drop the friend. How people treat your "no" is very important info about the quality of the relationship. If you argue with friends in situations like this, you need to work on yourself.

No is a sufficient answer and it will be very telling if the person doesn't hear and accept that no. [/quote]

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