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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP. Had a really bizarre experience today with DD. After speaking with her school counselor, we decided to stick to a hard homework time limit for DD. I communicated this to DD, and as expected, she reacted in anger.  Threatened to kill me, stab me with a knife, pulled out her pocket knife, told me I was useless, told me I was telling everyone lies about her, said I was treating her as if she had a disability, etc, basically a tantrum.  She doesn't mean any of it - it's the equivalent to a toddler screaming.  [b]In moments of anger, she just tries to think of the most shocking and most inappropriate thing she could do. [/b]But I did make it crystal clear that I'd be taking away her laptop at a specific time and would cut her off from homework after the allotted time.  And then whatever she didn't finish, we'd just write to the teacher and let them know.  The counselor said they'd talk to the teachers and make sure it didn't count against her when she didn't finish.

Miraculously...she finished her homework within that time limit. This was after consistently spending 3-5hrs every day on homework, - she finished in 1.5hrs. The crazy part?  Afterwards, over dinner, she literally became a different person.  I mean, who she was before at times. She was talking, about her interests, lively engaging, and having an actual conversation with us.  This was after being a brooding, mumbling, depressed and sick looking kid for at least 2 months. And literally just 30 minutes after telling me, "Mom, does it bother you that I will never want to talk to you again?  That I'd rather talk to my journal than ever talk to you?"  and I just responded, "I'm glad you have an outlet"

I know it's just one night.  And I know about adolescent mood swings. But I literally hadn't seen this girl in forever.  I don't want to jinx it or count my chickens before they hatch.  But it was so nice, and so surprising.   It felt like we had finally freed her from this terrible nightmare loop she was stuck in and she just needed us to pull her out of it.

This was a really tough month.  She had spent days refusing to even to talk to us.  But that was nice. [/quote]
My dd does this too, so I understand, but your dd pulled an actual knife on you. I hope you confiscated the pocket knife. Making empty threats is one thing, but brandishing a weapon is a bridge too far. She doesn’t carry it to school, does she?[/quote]

It really wasn’t like that. It was like a Swiss Army knife. The fact that it was a bridge too far was exactly why she did it. She was trying to get a reaction out of me. [/quote]

A Swiss Army knife is a knife! It can cut lots of things. That's why people have them. Indeed she was trying to get a reaction out of you. That doesn't mean she won't hurt anyone, or herself, with it. Nobody is violent until the day that they are. You probably thought she wouldn't threaten you with it either, but she did.

You need to take the knife away from her. Period. [/quote]

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