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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There's lots of bad advice in this thread, probably from old, divorced women who got married too young.

At 26, you're too young. And 3 years is just started to get close to the length of time past the honeymoon period of the relationship to even begin to see if you're compatible long-term.

Are there guys out there willing to get married sooner? Yes, they're called future ex-husbands. Or Mormons.[/quote]

I'm happily married and now 40. Got married at 27. Not Mormon, or Evangelical, or Muslim, or any other religion that pushes teen marriage.

I think if your mid-30s boyfriend of 3.5 years is telling you he wants to wait more YEARS to get engaged, he doesn't think you're his future wife. He doesn't feel lucky to have you, he's not worried about losing you. Time to move on. [/quote]

You're older. Younger people want to make sure a future spouse isn't going to go crazy before getting married. 3 months of partially living together isn't enough time for that.[/quote]

They’ve been dating more than long enough. And my age is not relevant. These things haven’t changed since 2012. [/quote]

They absolutely have, particularly in people trying to establish careers.

And no, obviously three years isn't enough. Just look at his last relationship failing after 5 years. They haven't been living together very long, either, which means they don't know how their dynamics will change yet.

And the op is 26 and still living off her parents. She's still maturing, which will certainly change things. Maybe for the better, maybe worse. But that's the problem- there's no way to know yet.[/quote]

A relationship failing after 5 years only proves he’s a time-waster. He didn’t want to marry his ex either.

And of course no, things have not changed for young professionals since 2012 and you’re grasping at straws to suggest that’s relevant. [/quote]

I can't tell if you think you're being helpful or are intentionally trying to sabotage the OP. But anyone still being supported by their parents is still a kid. And you don't marry kids.[/quote]

Then she should break up with the creep dating a kid. I mean really, where does this logic lead? Ultimately you’re agreeing she’s spending her time on someone who isn’t taking her seriously, I guess in the hope he will view her differently later. Well that is a very long shot. He sees her the way he sees her. [/quote]

OP, you're not going to get trustworthy advice here. Find some similarly-aged men and women you trust and ask them. They're naturally going to provide sympathy. But be clear that you intend to leave your SO and see how they respond to that. And be sure they understand where you are in life right now.[/quote]

Ah yes you are coming in with the “trustworthy advice” to let her boyfriend waste however much time he feels like since OP isn’t worthy of being taken seriously since she’s young and still being supported by her parents. With friends like you who needs enemies![/quote]

You're a sociopath. Your hatred of men isn't going to make things better for the OP.[/quote]

Projection. You want OP to stay with a man who doesn’t take her seriously because you also do not.  Pretty sociopathic![/quote]

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