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"I am dating my recent gf of 6 months and she is 42. Overall, talks a big game that she is a feminist and women's rights etc but never go 50-50 on anything. [b]I am very liberal and progressive and agree with most of the things she says about women etc but don't understand why her walk is different than her talk. I like her and have no problem spending $s as I make a lot more than her but she sometime acts like an entitled person and wants man to take care of her like in traditional setting[/b]. Not only her, but she is also teaching her young daughter to not go 50-50 on anything with her bf and counts a small thing such as driving to see him for 50 miles as enough contribution that he should take care of all the expenses for the weekend such as hotel, food, going out for drinks, etc. Is she really a feminist if her beliefs and values are in such a way that she can't even afford her own self?

"Op here. A few of the things that she does is that she has high expectations of gifts, trips and also gifts for her kids which I am fine if she is being honest but her efforts towards my kids and me depends on how she is feeling and always look out for her or her kids benefits. She talks about a blended family but also gets pushy on how I need to raise my kids for which I put strict boundaries and she doesn't that take that well. She could help us with cooking at the home but wants to eat out all the time. If her kids are coming over, then she would cook for sure. [b]She has a huge spending problem and spends more than she makes and in serious debt. A couple of comments she made about her ex-husband that she would not have stayed with him if he wasn't financially supporting her but then shows and give value to her daughters that man should take care of you. How is that sustainable when you are going against your values and contradicting yourself in terms of finance. your partner don't need to make as much as you but there are places in the household that you can contribute. She made a comment a while back that she started dating someone and he was good but then the guy asked to go for 50-50 after 3rd date and he dropped all contacts with him. I am not with her for money and can easily handle the expenses but this hypocrisy bothers me a little and not the way I want to raise my daughter to be dependent on a man[/b].

"Op here. [b]Her daughters are 24 and 20 [/b]and not young. Older one has a low paying job after a college degree and her mother expects me to cover some of the frivolous expenses for her daughter and I said NO."

So, reading between the lines here, the OP's partner had a kid at 18 and another one at 22. Assuming that the OP is in the U.S., this patterning likely correlates to a lack of education, critical thinking skills (hence her lack of responsible money management and the cognitive dissonance between her self-proclaimed feminism and her notion that men should be providers), and meaningful career on the part of the OP's partner. And yes, she sounds like an entitled hypocrite. But here's the thing. If the OP is a well-educated, high earning professional, then he's just as much of a hypocrite when it comes to being "liberal" and "progressive" because men who walk the walk in that regard seek out equal partners. The OP's partner is not equal partner material.

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