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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How do these things work for teens? Therapists don’t just tell kids to be friendlier. Nor do they call the principal and ask the principal to change the school culture. Instead, they ask teens to reflect on their actions or words and consider how they might have been perceived by others. They help them explore assumptions about what others might be thinking and provide insights into group dynamics.

Many angry responses seem to carry the assumption that therapy is something negative or something for people who are being judged. That's not the case. Therapy is for everyone, and people can go for any reason.[/quote]

I don’t think that therapy is negative.  And sure, a therapist can help someone who struggles socially or with relationships in a variety of contexts.  You can work on anxiety or empathy. 
But a therapist can’t really do anything for someone who generally doesn’t have trouble fitting in, but is struggling in this one particular situation.  
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In addition to anxiety and empathy, therapy provides a safe structured space for addressing low self-esteem, past negative experiences, building self-awareness, addressing maladaptive knee jerk reactions, or addressing lack of practice. The last one seems to be the biggest low-hanging fruit.[/quote]

I think therapy can be great.

I also think this woman could already be in therapy, may not have issues with self esteem or self awareness, and have no major social skills deficits.

It's clear from OP's posts that she and other parents at the school have not been welcoming, and that the OP lacks social skills. There's no evidence this woman is in need of therapy -- she hasn't done anything that sends up a red flag. She seems fine. OP is sending up red flags left and right.[/quote]

New parent events, introductions, and small talk are welcoming. If many people are able to take advantage of this in order to form connections, but one is not, that one person may have not want the connections (per example above).

However, sometimes, when people complain about not having a welcoming community, that person might be asking for is emotional validation and a safe place to be vulnerable. That’s what a therapist is for. That service goes beyond what a “welcoming community” can provide.[/quote]

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