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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why did you buy overseas? 
Are you both US citizens or is one from that place? Family there?
An intent to marry at the time of engagement. Ok. 
This engagement will last a loooong time.[/quote]

We are both US citizens and have no connection to the country other than falling in love with it and deciding to purchase property there.

It's a country that we travel to several times per year. We love the people, culture, language, natural beauty of the land, food etc.

We don't speak the language fluently but are currently learning it.[/quote]

This makes me jealous of people who are in a romantic relationship with someone other than the father of their children.  
I wish I could travel with DH several times a year while the kids were with another parent who loves them and takes care of them 50% of the time.  
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Op here. It's not all that it's cracked up to be. Let me share my perspective. When we go trips with just the two of us and we are in airports, restaurants, hotels or any public places where I see in tact families interacting it makes me sad. It makes me sad bc I wish my children could be there with us. One time for example we were at the airport waiting to board the place and a gamily next to us had to younger kids. The kids were thinking they were going to see grandma in Texas. Right before it was time to board the family told the kids the truth that they were going on their first intl vacation out of the country. The kids were so excited and it made me sad bc I wished my kids were there.

Let me say this though I dont let my 50/50 custody schedule with my ex limit our travel. Sometimes we go on trips with just the two of us and sometimes we go with my kids and sometimes I take the kids out of the country by myself. I prefer to have my children with me whenever possible while traveling to share the experience and so they can see life outside the US.

My ex and I alternate Thanksgivings. This Thanksgiving the kids are with me. This Thanksgiving we also happen going to the country where we are building the condo and the kids will come too.

We just got back from there with the kids in July and they loved it. While there we did some mission work and handed out groceries and toys to families and children in impoverished communities. It was so nice being able to incorporate my own children in the experience while at the same time helping other families and children.

I can see the allure of what your saying about wanting to  leave the kids with an ex while traveling with a new romantic partner. But when you have 50/50 custody you are already missing out on so many moments to create memories that I always want my kids to travel with me when possible because I feel that they are growing up so fast and I'm already missing out on 50 percent of time with them.

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Man.  That sucks.  It sounds like you have made yourself pretty miserable.

If you are going to take international trips with your new live-in boyfriend while you leave your kids with your drug addicted ex boyfriend, you should at least try to have fun![/quote]

My ex and I broke up 10 years ago when our kids were 2 & 4 yrs old. They are  currently 12 and 14. The ex is also a better person now vs back then. He eventually got the help he needed. He is now settled and married with literally the nicest woman I have ever met in my life. I am so glad for the stability she brings to him and the children's lives.[/quote]

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