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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This happened to me not so long ago.  It really sent me down a shame spiral.    But I got out of it in part by thinking about Mel robbins’ let them theory.   Look it up — she even talks about being left out of a mom vacation as an example.   The person who left me out is decently friendly to me still and I just react as I would to a casual friend.  Definitely never said anything about the party an never will.  [/quote]

Op here. Thank you! I will not be saying anything about the party if she calls me.

To another PP who asked what milestone event - it was their anniversary party. I guess that's why I felt hurt - that the new friends were invited and us left out. If this was a casual party I would not have cared because everyone cannot be invited to every party. I honestly don't know why she even bothered to call me just a few days prior. This was definitely not an oversight. She asked my what my weekend plans were.

Our spouses are friends too, kids are friends even if different ages.

What threw me off was we had invited her family just a few months ago and everything seemed fine. We have been chatting a lot by phone too since then.

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If she asked what your plans were, she was probably considering inviting you. Edge cases are always hard. You probably aren’t central to her friend group, but if it’s any consolation, she probably spent some time thinking about how to make space for you.[/quote]

Op here. She invited the friends I introduced whom she has known just a few months.

When she asked me what my plans were I said we had no plans really and we're just going to be cleaning the house.

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You answered this question but not the one about young kids. Do you have them? Does she? How do the kids all get along?

My nephew is a holy terror. Even my mom, his grandma, thinks twice before inviting him.[/quote]

OP here. We both have teens in high school. Hers are older than mine. The new friends have kids in middle school and high school.[/quote]

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