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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She’s just not that into you. You are probably annoying, giving off the vibe of “I’m busier than you, my husband is more successful, my kids smarter and better looking and talented”. Or maybe your politics are rubbing her the wrong way. There are a million ways to annoy other people. Better to just move on. [/quote]

I absolutely do not give off the I’m better than you vibe. I do have three easy children. At the last gathering with the other friend trying to get together, our friend’s three children were violently upset. The kids are always fighting and upset. At the last school event, she was there with our three children. My kids were having a great time. I sat with friend. Her kids were fighting the entire time. They were not fighting with my kids.

We have been family friends since preschool. Our kids went to the same preschool and now attend the same elementary school.[/quote]

You’re giving off the “I’m better than you” vibe right now. Maybe she has friends whose kids fight and would rather spend time with them.

Clearly there’s something about her that you like, since you care so much about how she spends her time.[/quote]

She likes feeling superior to this other struggling mom.  Sad.[/quote]

Then wonders why the mom is never available.

Superiority won’t make you any friends, OP. Friendship is based on connection.[/quote]

Also if this is as good a mom friend as you have, your friendships aren’t very good.[/quote]

I actually have a lot of friends. The friend has often told me how I have so many lovely friends and has told me how my kids take after me and that is why they are so social.

I will back off and give her space. We had  different close family friend, also with dads who were friends. I had said that maybe the mom doesn’t want to hang out with us. DH told me that the husband doesn’t like his wife or kids. The dad actually likes us and our kids. They ended up getting divorced. [/quote]

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