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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"A lot of you sound like crazy old trolls. Why are you so upset about the 40 year old who has her pick of guys? Why isn't she allowed to have standards or preferences?"

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I really don't get why anyone has a problem with what she's written about her approach to dating. She's taking care of her own kids financially. She's financially independent and not hunting for a rescuer. She is clever and engaging enough that men can comfortably bring her around their colleagues and clients. Let's face it - most SAHMs are not the sort of people you could do that with, and a certain type of man values that. It's a very attractive quality to women too. My partner was someone I took to a client's annual party at her Annapolis waterfront estate within the first month of dating him. I loved that I knew he'd show up wearing the right thing, with the right bottle of wine for the hostess, and that he charmed all the people I wanted to impress.

And why should she, or anybody, remarry anyone who can't substantially improve her current situation? She doesn't NEED a man. She's only going to put up with the downsides of marriage if the good stuff outweighs them. Makes sense to me. [/quote]

I guess you missed the part where PP said was a SAHM. And she of course she doesn’t look down on other women, while repeating the condescending things the men she chooses to associate with said about other women. [/quote]

It’s not condescending for men to say they want a woman who has more to offer than birthing children.

I work with a lot of guys in their 20s/30s, and the #1 dating complaint I hear is that they’ll meet a woman who is nice and pretty, but she has no ambition or goals for her life. It’s okay for men to have preferences.

Not really sure why it’s fine for women to say they don’t want a broke, lazy man, but not vice versa. [/quote]

But these women are encouraged to be that way.  They are simply living the “cozy-girl,” or “soft-girl” life.[/quote]

That’s just marketing, same with the tradwife thing. Influencers who make a full-time salary convincing other women they shouldn’t have to work.

I don’t know any young, single men who are attracted to that. Most want an equal partner. In fact last night I chatted with a 31 year old male colleague and good friend who owns a successful business; he just broke up with his 21 year old, beautiful Filipina girlfriend because she didn’t want to do anything with her life, just wanted to get married to him and have kids. He wants someone who doesn’t necessarily have the same level of wealth, but also has drive so they can build an empire together.

Older men with kids might be into a younger woman who can stay home and raise his kids.  [/quote]

Ask that young guy who is staying home from work when the kid is sick.[/quote]

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