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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP Here - She turned 13 early this month and was starting junior high (7th grade) so we decided to get her a phone. She only has an hour and a half of phone time per day and isn’t allowed to have it in her bedroom at night. We also monitor her apps, texts, etc. Locking her phone down at school instead of not allowing her to take it to school is something we will be doing now.

She behaves normally at home most times she just has issues with impulsivity that mainly affect her at school that we are currently working on. [b]The policy of giving ISS for first time phone use isn’t clear which is why DH really wanted to contest it.[/b] We went to the school yesterday and had a talk to the main principal about it who was very understanding and thought the suspension was too severe and DD does have an IEP so they want to review everything and have another meeting to determine if she will have to serve the suspension. She won’t have any screens (Phone or iPad) for at least 3 weeks and DH still wants to give her another consequence.[/quote]

That isn't what the ISS was for though. I'm surprised the principal was in agreement with you on this. The ISS was for insubordination, NOT using the phone in class. The only punishment for using the phone in class was (supposed to be) handing it over for the rest of the day. Our FCPS MS and HS both have that rule. [/quote]

The principal isn’t with them. The principal is backing down because OP’s jerk husband went in screaming about an IEP. IEPs do not mean the child isn’t subject to the discipline matrix or the district policies. A good parent would have her serve ISS for being defiant and refusing to hand her phone over. She got a tier 2 consequence because she wouldn’t accept the tier 1 consequence which is standard. And of course she “acts normally” at home- she isn’t being held to firm expectations at home so you’re not seeing her buck up at them. She’s too old for this and you’re not helping her by making excuses for her actions. [/quote]

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