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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All this bitterness and anti-ED is just jealousy. If you can’t pay the NPC, you can’t pay the NPC. Your DC has no right to go to a college YOU CAN’T PAY FOR![/quote]

I wonder if these people complain that "it's not fair, why do you get to drive a $75K BMW and I'm stuck in my Honda.  You gotta give me a BMW for the price of a Honda"

fact is many things in life are not "fair".   But I think the life of a "donut hole" kid is much better than 75-80% of the kids out there.  They grew up with parents who were around, who care about them getting an education, who were able to provide guidance and assistance if the kid struggled, they likely graduated college so know how to prepare the kid for college.  Much better life than a kid who grew up poor, has no clue what college means or provides, whose family has never been to college so doesn't understand why or how to get there, who cannot afford any tutors or assistance if the kid struggles, etc.  The donut hole families are literally complaingning about 30-40 top universities with single digit acceptance rates and are begrudging the fact they cannot afford to pay for them.  Their kid has likely had many advantages in life and is well prepared to excel at any school they attend.

I do agree, if I don't have the funds saved for $90K/year, I'd search for merit, rather than complaining I cannot afford a few schools (that I'm not likely to gain admission to anyhow).  
Recognize that as a donut hole family, you have so many more privileges than most kids in this country.

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It’s not about the kids who are full-pay (barely). It’s about kids from families who make less than that, and will qualify for some financial aid, but who make too much to qualify for a need-based full-ride. These kids, if they are strong enough students to get into T40s, can almost certainly get a lower net price somewhere pretty good by chasing merit and/or renegotiating financial aid packages. And most of them would be ashamed to ask their parents for money for school if they can get a full ride anywhere, a position you lot seem to regard as a moral failing. This is the class of kids who are excluded from elite schools by ED.

Posters on here who act like the whole world is either full-pay or so poor they will get a need-based full ride are erasing all these people who fall in between. And it seems to me that American elites being systematically blind to the circumstances faced by the middle class is a genuine issue in our society right now. And I can’t help wondering if the systematic exclusion of all the in-between people from your favorite schools has contributed to the creation of this blind spot. [/quote]

So just like 85%+ kids, they need to wait to see which college has the best financial offer.  Most kids do just that, and skip ED.  But stop complaining about "not being able to do ED".  That is a choice.   Outside of the Top 25-30 schools, there is a ton of merit.  And if you need to wait to see who offers the most merit, so be it.  So do many kids.  Sure others don't have to wait, because their parents saved or are willing to accept the NPC at their top choice and let them ED there.  
That is life.  Most outside the top 25 your kid will still get admitted in EA/RD and they can compare their Merit offers and choose.  
It's literally only 25-30 schools that give a ED advantage.  And even then it's not as big as you think.  Take Duke (and others are similar). ~40% of ED acceptances are legacy/athletes, another 15% are Questbridge students.  So that leaves 45% of the ED slots for "everyone else"It's not as big of advantage over RD as you are making it out to be.  It's still damn hard to get admitted to Duke (or any other T25) in ED or RD.

But if you truly want the advantages, then make yourself poor/questbridge eligible for the last 10+ years and truly live in poverty.  maybe then your kid will get a free ride to duke or Harvard on FA.  But I'm guessing you don't want it that much to make those sacrifices to be that poor for that long

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