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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Daycare is optional if one parent makes a good (enough) salary and has health insurance. The other parent can stay home.

Buying a house is optional. Rent an apartment (we lived in a one-bedroom until our first was one) instead of buying a house. Only have one car. Don't buy all the fancy baby stuff.

If you don't want to do this, don't. Roll the dice and wait until you are older.

But don't complain that you can't afford to have a child. You just don't want to live cheaply or slightly uncomfortably.

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I don't know any men in their 20s that make enough money to provide for a sahm and kids, plus saving to buy a house. DH and I made great salaries by our 30s, but in our 20s we both made like 75k. It was good when combined at 150k, but we couldn't have lived off of 75k total. [/quote]

There are plenty of stay at home mothers who had their first baby in their 20s.  They live all kinds of lives.   Some are still in school, some live in a three room apartment, some have a house by age 24.   We had our first at 25 years old and the second one at 33 years old.  I did not want two kids close together.   You try to work out the best you can what you want in life.  It doesn’t always follow your ideal timeline, there can be some sacrifices or temporary tough times but you can usually work it out.

We had a lot of financial and childcare help from both our families so that was great.  We also help our families.  When you’re a stay at home parent you typically meet all of the other stay at home parents.  The working parents are practically invisible.    [/quote]

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