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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To restate the question: I have a child who is struggling and has been for a long time. I understandably am tired or dealing with the challenges of this difficult child when my other children are easier. Can I exclude the difficult child who has been struggling in life for a long time from our family vacation and still be a good mom?[/quote]

I have a sibling who has struggled for a long time and, even at their best, is fairly unpleasant to be around.  I am deeply sympathetic to how hard that must be on our parents, even though I also see how they contribute to this dynamic.

If it's a family vacation, you invite the whole family.  Believe me, I'm happier when my sibling chooses not to join for these things, but excluding from a family vacation would likely weaken the relationship even further.

+1 to seeing a therapist with strong understanding of family dynamics, if you're not already.  You absolutely get to be a human being with feelings.  Good therapy can really help with setting the boundaries that allow you to be that feeling human being and treating your difficult kid as equitably as possible.[/quote]

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