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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You’re probably not being too harsh, but you probably also shouldn’t get divorced.

[b]Men often go through a postpartum thing where they suck. [/b]

Women need more help postpartum than they get from their spouses.

Having a baby is hard for everyone, whether they are doing great or not. Women seem to dive in more and plow through. Men often retreat.

What you need to adjust most is the game plan. You’re going to get less from him than you thought. It’s better for your little family if you can get more somewhere else. Childcare. Other family. Hired help of some other kind. Your expectations might have been unrealistic for him as an individual or not but seriously, it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t help you right now to be right. At all. Being right gets you bupkis right now so try hard to let that go.

Try hard not to get divorced until the baby turns 2. If you still want to at that point? Trust me, it’ll be there for you.

Don’t get pregnant. [/quote]

The bolded is sexist bullshite. Parroting this crap just continues the sexist stereotypes. There are selfish, sexist men who think that, no matter what - whether she's working or not, this is women's work. We need to do a better job raising men. Often we don't really know what our spouses are like until we are in a difficult situation.

Try to hire a night nurse or any help so you can take care of yourself. Your spouse isn't looking out for you so it would be helpful to hire help. I wouldn't even discuss it with that lump of a dh. He needs to show you he cares about you. [/quote]

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