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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It doesn’t seem like you see him as a partner. It seems like you think he should work for you 24/7 and you are mad he isn’t doing what you tell him to do. Your schedule includes all evening off every day for you to have downtime but no downtime for him.

You don’t throw around divorce as a control tool.

Having a baby is a big adjustment and you have to let go of being controlling and giving orders and instead talk and discuss and hear both points of view. You have to see yourselves as a team. You have to listen. You seem to be approaching this as though you are his boss and he is your employee.[/quote]

I don’t get any downtime or evenings off. He refuses to take the baby evenings during the week. He takes the baby for a couple of hours on the weekend. I’m with the baby 24/7 except for those couple of hours on the weekend. I’m on 24/7 during the week. That’s literally my entire reason for being upset. [/quote]

Take downtime. Even if you're breastfeeding, you can leave for two hours. Leave. What's he going to do? He'll have to figure it out.

If you want evenings off, take them. "I'm going out wednesday from 7-9 and again 7-9 on Friday". Period. This is how he treats you, so this is clearly a language he speaks.

Moms do this weird martyr thing, and it's stupid. Yeah, you're the one with the boobs, so you will need to be around, but not literally always. If you want a break, take one. It's his kid. You don't have to ask him to watch his kid. If he's not willing to volunteer to be responsible, voluntell him to be responsible for his kid, and then reinforce it by not being available. [/quote]

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